Are You Late?

This is such a big issue with many I know who are never on time for anything. This clearly shows their lack of professionalism, which also shows how disorganized they are, Some of them even forget or get late in paying their bills/credit cards payments on time.

I most often than not manage to be on time and get the things done that I need to do today, without postponement. I believe, ‘It’s not how, its why’. Being on time is easy, or doing it now or today is easy. If you really want to!

Let me share with you few reasons on one important topic “being late” and why it is bad, whether it’s for business, and personal, family or social commitments:

1. It shows lack of interest, commitment or passion. Why would anyone hire a person who is late for an interview? Or do business with someone who can’t keep the first commitment? How could a relationship be a priority if our appointments with our loved ones are the first to be compromised?
2. It demonstrates lack of respect for other people’s time. How do you feel when you somehow manage to show up on time, and then have to wait for the other person?
3. It sets the wrong example for our family, friends and co-workers – especially for people who look up to us e.g. our children, students or subordinates.

Now some tips on how to be on time:

1. Give importance. Decide to be on time and what I need to get done today! Don’t participate in anything half-heartedly.
2. Plan ahead. Be realistic! Example: “How long does it take to get ready and get there. Expect the traffic and other things to go wrong.”
3. Positive affirmations. Telling yourself, ‘I am always on time’, "I must do this today!" works better than ‘I am always late!’ I will try to do this today!

“I never could have done what I have done without the habits of punctuality, order, and diligence, without the determination to concentrate myself on one subject at a time.” (Charles Dickens)

Are you like Rocks, Pebbles or Sand?

A philosophy professor stood before his class with some items on the table in front of him. When the class began, wordlessly he picked up a very large and empty jar and proceeded to fill it with rocks, about 2 inches in diameter.

He then asked the students if the jar was full. They agreed that it was.

So the professor then picked up a box of pebbles and poured them into the jar. He shook the jar lightly. The pebbles, of course, rolled into the open areas between the rocks.

He then asked the students again if the jar was full. They agreed it was.

The professor picked up a box of sand and poured it into the jar. Of course, the sand filled up everything else.

He then asked once more if the jar was full. The students responded with a unanimous “Yes.”

“Now,” said the professor, “I want you to recognize that this jar represents your life. The rocks are the important things – your family, your partner, your health, your children – things that if everything else was lost and only they remained, your life would still be full.

The pebbles are the other things that matter – like your job, your house, your car.

The sand is everything else. The small stuff.”

“If you put the sand into the jar first,” he continued “there is no room for the pebbles or the rocks. The same goes for your life.

Moral of the Story!

If you spend all your time and energy on the small stuff, you will never have room for the things that are important to you. Pay attention to the things that are critical to your happiness. Play with your children. Take your partner out dancing. There will always be time to go to work, clean the house, give a dinner party and fix the disposal.

Take care of the rocks first – the things that really matter. Set your priorities. The rest is just sand.”

What I learned

I've learned - That you cannot make someone love you. All you can do is be someone who can be loved. The rest is up to them.

I've learned - that no matter how much I care, some people just don't care back.

I've learned - that it takes years to build up trust, and only seconds to destroy it.

I've learned - that it's not what you have in your life but who you have in your life that counts.

I've learned - that you can get by on charm for about fifteen minutes. After that, you'd better know something.

I've learned - that it's not what happens to people that's important. It's what they do about it.

I've learned - that you can do something in an instant that will give you heartache for life.

I've learned - that you should always leave loved ones with loving words. It may be the last time you see them.

I've learned - that either you control your attitude or it controls you.

I've learned - that regardless of how hot and steamy a relationship is at first, the passion fades and there had better be something else to take its place.

I've learned - that learning to forgive takes practice.

I've learned - that money is a lousy way of keeping score.

I've learned - that sometimes when I'm angry I have the right to be angry, but that doesn't give me the right to be cruel.

I've learned - that true friendship continues to grow, even over the longest distance. Same goes for true love.

I've learned - that maturity has more to do with what types of experiences you've had and what you've learned from them and less to do with how many years you've lived.

I've learned - that you should never tell a child their dreams are unlikely or outlandish. Few things are more humiliating, and what a tragedy it would be if they believed you.

I've learned - that no matter how good a friend is, they're going to hurt you every once in a while and you must forgive them for that.

I've learned - that it isn't always enough to be forgiven by others.Sometimes you have to learn to forgive yourself.

I've learned - that no matter how bad your heart is broken the world doesn't stop for your grief.

I’ve learned - that just because two people argue, it doesn't mean they don't love each other and just because they don't argue, it doesn't mean they do.

I've learned - that sometimes you have to put the individual ahead of their actions.

I've learned - that you shouldn't be so eager to find out a secret. It could change your life forever.

I've learned - that no matter how you try to protect your children, they will eventually get hurt and you will hurt in the process.

I've learned - that there are many ways of falling and staying in love.

I've learned - that your life can be changed in a matter of hours by people who don't even know you.

I've learned - that even when you think you have no more to give, when a friend cries out to you, you will find the strength to help.

I've learned - that writing, as well as talking, can ease emotional pains.

I've learned - that credentials on the wall do not make you a decent human being.

I've learned - that the people you care most about in life are taken from you too soon.

Tomatoes

A jobless man applied for the position of "office boy" at Microsoft.
The HR manager interviewed him then watched him cleaning the floor as a test.

"You are employed" he said. "Give me your e-mail address and I'll send you the application to fill in, as well as the date when you may start.

The man replied "But I don't have a computer, neither an email".

"I'm sorry", said the HR manager. If you don't have an email, that means you do not exist. And who doesn't exist, cannot have the job."

The man left with no hope at all. He didn't know what to do, with only $10 in his pocket. He then decided to go to the supermarket and buy a 10Kg tomato crate. He then sold the tomatoes in a door to door round.
In less than two hours, he succeeded to double his capital. He repeated the operation three times, and returned home with $60. The man realized that he can survive by this way, and started to go everyday earlier, and return late. Thus, his money doubled or tripled every day. Shortly, he bought a cart, then a truck, and then he had his own fleet of delivery vehicles.

5 years later, the man is one of the biggest food retailers in the US . He started to plan his family's future, and decided to have a life insurance. He called an insurance broker, and chose a protection plan.

When the conversation was concluded the broker asked him his email.

The man replied, "I don't have an email."

The broker answered curiously,” You don't have an email, and yet have succeeded to build an empire. Can you imagine what you could have been if you had an e mail?!!" The man thought for a while and replied, "Yes, I'd be an office boy at Microsoft!"

Moral of the story:

M1 - Internet is not the solution to your life success.

M2 - Just because you internet, and don’t work hard, you cannot be a millionaire.

Have a great weekend!!

Do You Have Integrity?

Sometimes I get so sick and tired of associating with people who lack integrity; society is full of such "garbage". Manipulation, lack of Integrity is probably the key to this “Garbage” and I am sure many of you are compelled to deal with them on a daily basis.

I would like to start with the true definition of the word “Integrity”- It means having the  quality of being honest and having strong moral principles; moral uprightness”

Integrity is the quality of having high moral principles, being reliable and trustworthy. it is also being sincere and being trustworthiness nothing can guarantee social stability and confidence among people like being honest, it is considered one of the basic foundations on which societies are built. The moment it disappears, distrust and lack of cooperation take its place in the heart of people.

Our planet is in trouble due to a lack of integrity - a lack of high moral principles that are in alignment with who we really are in our souls. Why is there such a lack of integrity? What is the issue underlying a lack of integrity?

As the quote above indicates, how we THINK determines our level of integrity. When we are addicted to thinking thoughts that create fear and a habit of being a manipulator, we may end up behaving in ways that lack integrity.

Why would we want to think thoughts that create fear and why do we manipulate people? Because this is what our programmed mind - our wounded ego self - knows and thrives on.

Our wounded self - which is our ego programmed mind - learned many ways to protect us from the things we feared and could not handle as little children. We might have learned to lie to protect the truth. We might have learned to steal to get what we wanted. We might have learned to have temper tantrums to get our way. 

This will not change until people change their thoughts. What if people thought thoughts based on truth and caring? What if the following thoughts were the norm?

"Being kind to myself and others empowers me and gives me the strength to stand up for what is right - both for myself and others."

"There is enough for everyone to have what they want and need. Abundance is a law of the universe."

"Behaving in ways that are in alignment with the spiritual values of compassion, kindness and caring - which is who I really am - brings me great inner peace and joy."

Obviously, people who operate from these thoughts rather than from the thoughts of their ego-wounded selves are the people who lack integrity.

As long as people operate under the false belief that happiness lies in getting what they want externally, rather than in whom they choose to be in the world, they will be lacking integrity on their way to getting. Only when they finally see that deep inner peace and joy comes from being in alignment with their inner spiritual values will they consistently behave with integrity.

Many feel praying , going to church, mosque or any place of worship, many times a day or a week, and doing a little bit of charity, can cover up all the lies, cheating and manipulation. What Bullshit!

Get a reality check!

What's in the mind does not matter, But what’s in the heart that matters the most!

Are you Special?

A well-known speaker started off his seminar by holding up a $20 bill. In the room of 200, he asked, "Who would like this $20 bill?"

Hands started going up.

He said, "I am going to give this $20 to one of you but first, let me do this." He proceeded to crumple the dollar bill up.

He then asked, "Who still wants it?"

Still the hands were up in the air.

"Well," he replied, "What if I do this?" And he dropped it on the ground and started to grind it into the floor with his shoe.

He picked it up, now all crumpled and dirty. "Now who still wants it?" Still the hands went into the air.

"My friends, you have all learned a very valuable lesson. No matter what I did to the money, you still wanted it because it did not decrease in value. It was still worth $20.  

Many times in our lives, we are dropped, crumpled, and ground into the dirt by the decisions we make and the circumstances that come our way.

We feel as though we are worthless. But no matter what has happened or what will happen, you will never lose your value.

You are special!

Don't ever forget it!

Advice from Abraham Lincoln

A letter written by Abraham Lincoln to the Headmaster of a school in which his son was studying.

It contains an advice, which is still relevant today for executives, workers, teachers, parents and students. Hope this will help you.

To,

The Headmaster

He will have to learn, I know,

That all men are not just,

All men are not true,

But teach him also,

That for every scoundrel there is a hero,

For every selfish politician,

There is a dedicated leader!

Teach him that for every enemy there is a friend,

It will take time I know but teach him if you can,

That a dollar earned is of far more value than five found!

Teach him to learn to lose and also to enjoy winning

Steer him away from envy, if you can

And teach him the secret of quiet laughter

Let him learn early, that the bullies are the easiest to lick!

Teach him if you can the wonder of books

But also give him time to ponder over the eternal mystery of birds in the sky,

Bees in the sun and flowers on the green hillside

In school teach him it is far more honorable to fail than to cheat!

Teach him to have faith in his own ideas,

Even if everyone tells him they are wrong

Teach him to be gentle with gentle people

And tough with the tough people!

Try to give my son the strength, not to follow the crowd

When everyone is getting into the bandwagon!

Teach him to listen to all men,

But teach him also to filter all he hears on a screen of truth,

And take away the good that comes through!

Teach him if you can how to laugh when he is sad

Teach him there is no shame in tears!

Teach him to scoff at cynics,

And to beware of too much sweetness!

Teach him to sell his brawn and brain to the highest of bidders,

But never to put a price tag on his heart and soul!

Teach him to close his ears to a howling mob

And to stand and fight if he thinks he is right!

Treat him gently, but do not cuddle him,

Because only the test of fire makes fine steel!

Let him have the courage to be impatient,

Let him have the patience to be brave!

Teach him always to have sublime faith in himself,

Because then he will always have sublime faith in mankind

This is big order but see what you can do

He is such a fine little fellow, my son!

Yours sincerely,

Abraham Lincoln